Give Yourself a Break by Kim Fredrickson
Release Date: JuneTu 2015
Genre: CLWI, Self Help, Non-Fiction
Licensed marriage and family therapist Kim Fredrickson offers a unique approach to self-compassion. I majored in counseling when I was in college so I found it really fascinating and a useful resource. It is well-written gentle in its text, and Biblically sound. I’m excited that there is a book on this topic because there aren’t many.
As Christians, it can be really difficult to incorporate the practice of self-compassion.
“As children we’re taught to treat others the way we would like to be treated. But as adults, we often need to turn that old maxim around. We’re good at showing compassion to other people – but many of us have trouble showing that same compassion to ourselves.”
“Self-compassion is absolutely essential for healthy, balanced living. It provides huge benefits including emotional resiliency, stress reduction, contentment, and healthier relationships. Without it we are vulnerable to the opinions of others and find it difficult to deal with and let go of our mistakes. It is tough enough to go through a difficult situation, especially when we think we had a part in creating it. It is another kind of torture to never be able to let go of self-criticism and blame… God’s heart is tender toward us in our suffering, frailties, and mistakes. He is our perfect example of balancing truth and grace. He knows we are but dust and is merciful (Ps. 78:38-39).”
When we mess up, we tend to critic ourselves instead of being compassionate. We tend to be more compassionate to others. Fredrickson’s goal is to show the reader that it is okay to be the way you do, mistakes happen, and you can take steps to move on. She also talks about why we struggle with self-compassion, it affects our relationships with others, how to treat yourself with kindness, and so forth. Many of these concepts I was already familiar with and I had read a lot of the books in her bibliography in college so that was fascinating. This can be used both individually or in a group setting.
Disclaimer: I received a copy of this book from the publisher for my honest review, which I have given. I was not required to write a positive review and have not been compensated for it in any way. All opinions expressed are my own.
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Kim Fredrickson has been a licensed marriage and family therapist and certified Christian life coach for more than twenty-five years. An adjunct professor, speaker, and author, she loves helping people become equipped spiritually, emotionally, and intellectually with practical skills to live more effective and fulfilling lives. Her website offers visitors helpful articles, encouraging recordings, and additional resources. She has been married to her husband, Dave, for thirty-seven years and they have two grown children. Fredrickson lives in California. Learn more at http://www.kimfredrickson.com.